How to be Wrathful

When a sub strays too far from the rule of their Master, punishment is required to rectify the situation.

It is this feature that differentiates a Dominant/sub relationship from other relationships.

Without this central principle, a Dominant cannot establish order over their sub and a sub can easily tumble into chaos.

How then, does a Dominant use their Wrath to keep their sub in proper order?


It begins with restraint.


Dominants are creatures of sheer will.

We are beings who do not bend to others easily, though we might if we have no choice or if we’re biding our time to make a power play.

As such, we’re inclined to act out impulsively.

When things don’t go our way, we tend to be wrathful.

We become savages, ruthless creatures filled with the most vicious ideas of what we could do to whatever person (because there’s always someone involved when we go off) is causing us enough grief to set us off.

We must, therefore, learn restraint because if we’re truly unbound we can do a lot of damage in an unbelievably short period of time.

Restraint involves self-awareness, particularly of your emotions, impulses, and actions.

To stop yourself from punching someone, you have to first know that you want to hit them really hard right now.

To know you want to hit them really hard right now, you have to be aware that you can hit them really hard right now.

That’s where a big part of the strength of a Dom comes from; the knowledge of the fact that we can do harm.

We aren’t sheep; we are fucking lions.

We are the powerful, the strongest willed of this world.

We can rip whatever lowly bitch gets in our way to shreds BUT WE DON’T.

Not becoming wrathful, sheathing that sword is but one of the things that separates us from most subs.


It ends with measure.


You must also be able to dish out the right amount of punishment; too little and the lesson will not be learned, too much and your sub will begin to resent you.

As with most physical activities, the limits of your wrath must be learned by experience.

The only way to gain experience is to practice.

As with most things, it is best in your early stages of learning to find a mentor, someone from whom you can learn.

This does go against the nature of Dominants, however this slight is worth for it in the long-run.

Not only do you get to learn from the experiences of a more established Master or Mistress, you can gain the added confidence you need to take your Dominant relationship to the next level.

You will need to know how much damage you can deal, be it physical, emotional or psychological.

You will also need to learn the limits of your sub, how much are they comfortable with and how much isn’t enough for them.

The idea here once again is that knowledge is true power.

The more you know as a Dominant, the more control and influence you can exert upon the world and everyone around you.

These things take time to found out, so don’t be in a rush.

If you do, you will make mistakes and when you make mistakes in certain areas of play (things like bloodplay, CBT, beatings) your mistakes will be costly.

Use common sense where possible, do research everywhere else.

When in doubt: stop, breathe, ask questions. When it’s safe, begin again.

You’ll do fine.

Just remember to take your time, learn, and have your wrathful fun.

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Enrichen your favorite Patriarch.


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